A tale of two resources.

My wife Kelly and I recently saw the movie "The Wedding Date" with Debra Messing and Dermot Mulroney. Not a bad romantic comedy "chick flick" as far as "chick flicks" go. I won't go so far as to recommend it, and I certainly would not allow your kids see it. There's not a bunch of skin, but the whole premise of the movie is wacky. Oh wait.... it's a romantic comedy.... what was I expecting?

While the subject of the movie revolves about getting ready for a wedding (thus the title), the plot reveals the worldly view and shallow nature of "casual" sexual encounters. The ramifications of this behavior are not ultimately without their consequences, but these "consequences" aren't felt until the very end of the movie. Even then, the "consequences" (if you can call them that) don't really fit reality.

Contrast that against a book that Kelly and I are going through called "Sheet Music" by Dr. Kevin Leman. It's book about intimacy in marriage. Making music between the sheets.

That's one of the advantages of being involved in marriage ministries, you learn about all these really great resources for married people.

Dr. Leman is very frank and explicit in this resource, and he's also very clear. This book is a resource for married people only.

What a breath of fresh air in a world where sex is so casual that movies continually portray it as "OK" to hire a prostitute to pretend they are your boyfriend or girlfriend. Remember "Pretty Woman" with Julia Roberts?

The author, Dr. Leman, is clear that God intended that intimate encounters between a husband and wife are blessed by Him and supposed to be a whole lot of fun.

Not only that, but this guy has a great sense of humor!

He quotes another author, Stephen Schwambach, "Anybody who has ever experienced great lovemaking instinctively knows the truth: Sex is too good to have just happened. It didn't evolve as the result of some cosmic accident. Something this exquisite had to have been lovingly, brilliantly, creatively designed.

If an atheist ever comes up to you and demands proof that there is a God, all you have to answer is one word: "Sex". Give him a day to think about it. If at the end of that day he remains unconvinced, then he has just revealed far more about his sex life - or the lack thereof - than he ever intended!

God created sex. Doesn't that tell you a lot about who God really is? Among other things, it tells you that He is ingenious."

What an awesome line! I can't wait to use it on the next atheist I encounter. If nothing else, it's creative, funny and will help break the ice for a deeper, more meaningful conversation.

When it comes to marriage, relationships and intimacy there's no substitute for going to the Creator and following His instructions. If you have read "Sheet music" I'd love to hear your thoughts. If you haven't, and you are married and you are a follower of our Lord Jesus, here's a resource to help you make your own "Sheet music".